Dam Hoi Ceremony Preparations Continue

31 Jul

We are now T – 2 days until our Dam Hoi Engagement Ceremony. Things are getting done and it’s certainly a team effort.

Last night we prepared the mam or trays that will carry gifts to my parents. We hung some decorations to make the house more festive for the celebration and that even helped raise the excitement level, for me anyways.

Here are the gift trays prepped and ready to roll to my parent’s front door:

Red gift trays for the Engagement Ceremony

We will also have fireworks outside his family’s house as we return. Check out my MacGuyver work on these (formerly)hand-held fireworks:

Fireworks for the Engagement ceremony

I am told the fireworks ward off any negative energy around us as we move forward to join our families together with a clean slate and positive energy. Pretty cool tradition.

I won’t share any more photos as I don’t want to spoil what will be the finished product that will be well captured by our photographer that day.

Our Dam Hoi is starting early in the as we would normally during the work week. As such, my good friend will be at my parent’s house (with bells on, no doubt) at 6 AM to do my hair and make-up for the day. That’s 6 o’clock in the morning if you missed it when abbreviated. That means I also have to be showered and mostly dressed by that time. I may be building in a siesta later in the day until I catch a second or third wind!

I asked about the significance of the ceremony time, and Ba (dad) told me that traditionally families often consult a fortune teller to find the lucky time for the promising ceremony to take place. We didn’t go that route, so thus counting backwards from noon-ish when people are hungry, we’re starting the ceremony around 9 AM at my parent’s home.

Makes sense to me!

Having previously scoured the Internet, there doesn’t seem to be any absolute rules and customs that are followed through and through. Especially as families move away from Vietnam and relationships become more modern, it’s logical that the ceremony evolves a bit. However I do love the essence and foundation of our Dam Hoi is deeply rooted in tradition.

Can’t wait to share the traditions with my family as I join his.

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